If a child lives with tolerance, they learn to be patient. If a child lives with encouragement, they learn confidence. If a child lives with praise, they learn to appreciate. If a child lives with fairness, they live with justice.
If a child lives with security, they live to have faith. If a child lives with approval, they learn to like himself. If a child lives with acceptance and friendship they learn to find love in the world. Dorothy Law Nolte. Please see the complete version here: Dorothy Law Nolte Poem. Everyone loves to share beautiful stuff like this but articles such as the ones that I write about the reality of children who have NOT been raised this way are not shared nearly as much.
Her words are truth and they are the ideal but it is frowned upon in polite society if we have discussions about the way kids turn out if we ARE NOT raised with all this love and nurturing because it points the finger at the parents and there is some sort of huge taboo about doing that.
We are not going to solve the problem of child abuse without discussing the pain of being those children. It is the adult children who are IN so much pain who are raising the future generations and it will only be by facing ALL the truth that will lead to global change.
If the cycle of child abuse emotional abuse, domestic violence, sexual abuse or spiritual abuse and neglect is going to be broken, the painful details that involve dysfunctional families have to be talked about too. Please share your thoughts about this topic. I look forward to the discussion. Exposing Truth; one snapshot at a time. The Emerging from Broken book is ready for download!
If you find that the subject matter I am writing about resonates with you, get this book today! This page, downloadable, printable, live linked e-book will put you on the fast track to healing. For many of us, love is not based on equal terms. Also as children, it places the horrible expectation that we should know how to give the kind of love that gets us love in return.
If as children, the love isnt there what do we do? Akusua Yes, the failure belongs to the parent not to the child.
It is mistreatment and it breaks the self esteem of the child. And children have no choice; they depend on their parents for their lives. So we learn to survive and accept the unacceptable just in order to survive.
As an adult I realized that my life no longer depended upon these adults who mistreated and disregarded me. I flipped all those lies over and changed them back to the truth. Hugs, Darlene. Mimi, Thank You! The LC has not been working, since I was was still distressed. Well, feeling better with 2 weeks NC… Yay for me! Hi Everyone! I have published a new post about the letter I have mentioned here that my sister sent to myself and my daughter accusing me of poisoning my family my kids against my father.
You can read it here! SMD, I went through fearful times too. The further I got from my mom, the more clarity I found. Because she had such an inivisible hold on me, being in her presence seemed to hinder the clarity. Even though I could identify it as one of her tactics, I still was touched in some way, and that would mess with my clarity, even if only a little bit.
After the last few exchanges I had via email, when my stepdad intruded, it was like I was handing them the rope, and they eagerly accepted. Their words screamed dysfunction and screwed up definitions of honor, love, respect, bullying, etc. They both got to a level of desperation that I find so evident now. It has really helped me to see them for who they are. That I could remain calm and speak as an adult, but they failed to do so. That is a relief to me.
The road goes both ways. Once I put the pressure on them, they got angry and unreasonable. It proves to me that when buttons are pushed, people react. They stood over me like vipers holding an axe, ready to strike if I had a thought of my own or showed a hint of anger.
Bullying because they could. Because I was weak. Because I needed them. My husband, and people here, etc. My husband suggested I route their emails to junk folder. It unleashes some strange paralysis on me for a few days. I want to get past that two month mark when she comes back with some new crap.
I want to see what happens past that. I understand that pain you refer to. It is so painful. Revelations are just painful, no other way to describe it. I remember wondering how my mom could NOT love me, her own child. I need this time. Thanks for listening, and I hear you. I know now that I can still function in a work capacity. What a relief that is. Thank you for sharing this!
Sounds like you are having some victories! Pam, Thanks for your comment Actually, this makes so much sense to me! The pathology is toxic! The ability to function becomes impaired. Yes, a sensible answer is to end the relationship. My goal right now is to stay away from FOO, until I do more healing on myself. I have an intake appt set up this month to address my issues 7 problems.
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